Why Tink's good intentions were so bad(but it was fate)

~The path to hell is paved with good intentions.~

(I was half awake and half asleep thinking about this topic just before I got up this morning and wrote this, so if it's weird or incoherent, that's why.)

(And BTW, I've blacked out the spoilers, so highlight those parts if you want to see them.)

Pathological altruists think that because they believe themselves to be good, then all their good intentions are also good, regardless of the consequences.  If they had chosen to do the "bad" thing instead of the "good" thing, then everyone's lives would have actually been better.

When Regina went out to her balcony and was pounding the railing out of pain and frustration and the balcony railing broke loose and she fell, if Tink hadn't intervened, Regina would have been dead. She would never have become the Evil Queen and hundreds if not thousands of peeps lives would have been different.  Lot's of peeps not dead.

So Regina is saved from death. But then Tink used the stolen pixie dust to show Regina who her next true love would be.  What if Regina actually did go in to meet him?  Well then, likely she would not have killed the king, Snow would not have gone on the run as a bandit, she would not have met Charming, they would not have had Emma, Emma would not have had Henry, Hood would not have met Marian, they would not have had Roland, etc.

Tink's good intentions would have had drastic consequences for everyone's timelines.  It's like breaking the Prime Directive or going back in time and changing something.  It screws everything up in the future.  I think this is why the Blue Fairy was so angry with Tink and took away her wings and magic, because this was the second time she had done something like this.  (Probably the first time was giving pixie dust to Pan, but we shall see!)

Anyway, I think Tink saving Regina from falling to her death was supposed to happen. That was fated to be.

I initially liked Tink, but she did what she did without regard for the consequences, then got all pissy with Regina in Neverland because Regina didn't do what Tink thought she should have done.  You can't expect people to make decisions based on what you think is best for them.  What happened to Tink wasn't Regina's fault.  It was Tink's fault.  She chose to disobey the Blue Fairy and reaped the consequences.  And blaming Regina for also ruining her true love's life as well is 100% wrong in my opinion.  I don't think his life was ruined.  I think he lived his life as he was supposed to have lived it.  And he and Regina are not dead yet.  I don't think their relationship was supposed to have happened back then in FTL(see my comments in the thread below).  It's supposed to happen some time in the future.

I can't stand pathological altruism. This is part of the reason why I hate "good" characters so much: 

"...The corruption of the good by the belief in their own infallible goodness is the most bloody dangerous pitfall in the human spectrum. Once you have conquered all your sins, pride is the one which will conquer you. A man starts off deciding he is a good man because he makes good decisions. Next thing, he's convinced that whatever decision he makes must be good because he's a good man. Most of the wars in the world are caused by people who think they have God on their side. Always stick with people who know they are flawed and ridiculous." --Helen Fielding

"One doesn’t have to operate with great malice to do great harm. The absence of empathy and understanding are sufficient. In fact, a man convinced of his virtue even in the midst of his vice is the worst kind of man" --Charles M. Blow