This is only a test.
This is just a test to determine whether or not I know how to communicate properly. I have been told by one person in particular that I don't know how to communicate. That's kinda funny, since all evidence seems to support the fact that I have been able to successfully communicate for the past few decades. So let's do a little experiment. I shall relate to you the small task that I did today and then you tell me if you understood.
Here goes: I had to cut down three fishtail palms that were growing by the neighbor's fence. The palms were not deliberately planted there. It seems that they sprouted up because of seeds dropped by a bird. That sort of palm is rather messy and can get very large so it was best that I cut them down before they got any larger. So I went and cut them down with the electric chainsaw and then proceeded to cut all the fronds off and cut the trunks into small, manageable pieces. I then put as many of the fronds and trunk pieces as I could fit into the big wheelie bin for trash pick-up. The rest of the fronds and trunk pieces were loaded onto the lawn cart and wheeled around to the car port. I then unloaded them from the cart and stacked them on the floor behind my car. I did this so they wouldn't lay in the yard killing the grass and getting wet and nasty with all the rain we've been having. After I stacked the fronds and trunk pieces behind my car, I then put the lawn cart on the top of them.
Now, a few questions to determine if you understood what I just said here.
1) What did I do to the fishtail palms by the neighbors fence?
2) Where are the fronds and trunk pieces?
3) Where is the lawn cart?
4) Was that story so hard to understand?
Here goes: I had to cut down three fishtail palms that were growing by the neighbor's fence. The palms were not deliberately planted there. It seems that they sprouted up because of seeds dropped by a bird. That sort of palm is rather messy and can get very large so it was best that I cut them down before they got any larger. So I went and cut them down with the electric chainsaw and then proceeded to cut all the fronds off and cut the trunks into small, manageable pieces. I then put as many of the fronds and trunk pieces as I could fit into the big wheelie bin for trash pick-up. The rest of the fronds and trunk pieces were loaded onto the lawn cart and wheeled around to the car port. I then unloaded them from the cart and stacked them on the floor behind my car. I did this so they wouldn't lay in the yard killing the grass and getting wet and nasty with all the rain we've been having. After I stacked the fronds and trunk pieces behind my car, I then put the lawn cart on the top of them.
Now, a few questions to determine if you understood what I just said here.
1) What did I do to the fishtail palms by the neighbors fence?
2) Where are the fronds and trunk pieces?
3) Where is the lawn cart?
4) Was that story so hard to understand?
posted by Xul at 9:38 PM
11 Comments:
1) What did I do to the fishtail palms by the neighbors fence?
You cut them down with the electric chainsaw.
2) Where are the fronds and trunk pieces?
You put them in the wheelie bin and behind your car.
3) Where is the lawn cart?
On top of the stacked fronds and trunk pieces behind your car.
4) Was that story so hard to understand?
I guess not. It was a bit boring and I kept expecting some kind of trick question thingy, which was distracting.
all evidence seems to support the fact that I have been able to successfully communicate for the past few decades.
Exactly, so what is this really about?
It's about the frustration that I have to deal with when I have to interact with someone who has an undiagnosed mental disorder. When you have to deal with someone else's mental issues, eventually you start to question your own sanity. I have problems with one person in particular and one other person. I don't usually have issues people. So I'm just trying to prove that it is not me. I found wonderful site the other night and stayed up til 3am reading. It's nice knowing that I'm not alone.
That should be "I don't usually have issues withpeople." and "I found a wonderful site"
That's what happens when I type while pissed.
When you have to deal with someone else's mental issues, eventually you start to question your own sanity.
Yeah, I know what you mean. Where does this accusation of not being able to communicate fit in? Does it have a specific origin?
Where does this accusation of not being able to communicate fit in? Does it have a specific origin? My mother. Who is a lot like Joan Crawford in Mommy Dearest. I've known for years that the whole situation was not normal but I've only been able to put a finger on it in the past few years. I actually have Petrichor to thank. When she wrote about suspecting that her mother had a personality disorder it got me to thinking that maybe that was what was wrong with my mother. After a bit of research, I concluded that it seemed to be NPD. Just recently, I found that she is most likely OCPD as well. Just the other night I found a great site to help me cope with her behavior: outofthefog.net
This thread has many of the behaviors that I have to deal with: the inability to listen, the doing a monologue and not allowing me a word in edge-wise and then when I try to say something I'm "always interrupting" and "you never let me finish!"
So in what way have you been coping with this behaviour so far? Do you have any special techniques/methods?
For example, sometimes she seems normal and then other times she's just looking for a fight. Like yesterday, I was in my room minding my own business watching TV when she barged in babbling about something. I don't know what about because I usually just tune her out. Then, perceiving that I was tuning her out and itching for a fight, she has to bring up some behavior that I do that she doesn't like. "When are you ever going to stop doing 'X' ?" "Never!" I reply. I used to let her get me upset and then join into the argument, now I just stay calm and try not to let her suck me into her bs. So because I didn't jump to modify my "behavior" she went to her tried and true tactic of "what would your friends think?" That's when my blood pressure went through the ceiling. My childhood through early adulthood was ruined because of her doing that. That's why I had terrible social anxiety and avoidant behaviors because of her always making me think that other people would think I was weird of whatever because of something that I was doing. I used to be totally obsessed with what others might be thinking of me and it was fucking crippling. Anyway, I'm over that thanks to a few good people in my life as well as resources on the web.
Anyway, I calmly responded, "They wouldn't care." Then she goes to what would the coworkers think? Since I don't have any that's a moot point. Then she goes back to threatening to tell my friends. I said, "Here. Take my phone and call them. I don't care."(calling her bluff) Then she scoffs at that(because she doesn't know how to use my phone, that's why. LOL). Then she jumps to the "it's immoral!" At that point I just started laughing because that response was just so fucking ridiculous that it cracked me up. Well, ridicule and laughing at a N is like kryptonite to them and she turned around in a huff and stormed out.
So that's what I've been doing. Trying to stay calm and not allow myself to get sucked in to a fight or just let her talk herself out while I ignore her.
Did you read the thread that I linked to? TechGuy's posts sound almost exactly like something that I would say. I think I'll do a post about that thread and go through point by point of all the behaviors I've had to deal with over the years.
Did you read the thread that I linked to?
Yes, I've read the whole link now.
go through point by point of all the behaviors I've had to deal with over the years.
Sounds fascinating.
Sounds fascinating. Really? Or are you being sarcastic?
No, I'm not being sarcastic. I have a general interest in human behavior and psychology. Plus I think I can empathize with you as my own parents have some issues. (and okay, I have some issues as well :) )
Okay, I started working on it last night but there was a LOT to cover and it gets exhausting after a while. And that was mainly on the topic of "unable to listen." I just have my commentary to add. The other thing is there are many good threads on that site and it's nice to see that there are others with the same issues. Well, not "nice" but you know what I mean. :)
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